Language we use with children
Getting ready to visit the classroom, or curious about the words and practices we use with children? Start here.
Montessori work cycle basics
Montessori classrooms are special. Knowing a few basics will help when you observe the work cycle.
As a guide in the classroom, your role may be different than you expect.
Instead of "Good job"
"Good job" comes from a good place, but it may not do what we hope.
Don't rebuke. Don't praise. Assist, and encourage.
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A favorite book of ours explains why, through an imagined conversation between a philosopher and a young man, drawn from Adlerian psychology:
- Adlerian psychology says not to praise or rebuke, in raising children or in any relationship. Physical punishment is out of the question.
- Praise is a judgment made by someone in a higher position about someone lower. Even when it's kind, it sets up a hierarchy.
- Praise and rebuke are a carrot and a stick. Both aim to steer behavior, which is why we step away from reward and punishment.
- The alternative is a horizontal relationship, where we're "equal but not the same."
Redirection
Redirection is how we avoid saying "no." When a child has a need that isn't right for the moment, we help meet it in a way that's more mindful of the space.
Discipline
This video sums up discipline well. Watch parts 1 and 2.
Instead of "Be careful"
"Be careful" is well meant, but other words communicate better.
We encourage risky play, along with self-awareness and risk assessment.